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This could have been prevented

Here is part of a statement that I was asked to record the other day:

Woolie Kondoo
233 Windsor St

To whom it may concern

25th April 2011

RE: Anoni Adawi

I first got to know Anoni Adawi when she telephoned me in response to an advert that she had seen about our small business services agency. Anoni subsequently registered as a customer and used our services. This would have been around April 2010.

It was several weeks later that Anoni first confided in me that things were not going very well at home. She and her husband were having serious domestic problems. As the weeks went by things seemed to get worse. Anoni told me that her husband would often threaten her with violence and force her out of the house. She said that there had been times when she had spent the night in the cold garage.

Anoni said that she was suffering psychological abuse in the home. Fearing that she may be in potential danger of physical abuse I contacted a social worker specialising in domestic violence and they advised that Anoni must leave the house. I assisted her in finding friends who could help with temporary accommodation and support whilst she got herself back on her feet.

Anoni left the family home and moved to Luton around August 2010. She has worked and lived here to date.


DV No Excuse

The names have been changed to protect privacy and I do not wish to betray a confidence. Change the names of people and places and you will find that this is something that occurs all too frequently within families from all walks of life and wherever they may live.

Perhaps not all of us can speak of a family situation that ended in tragedy following many years of domestic turmoil. Perhaps few of us have been close to the parties concerned. Whatever our situation when we read of these tragic endings we are filled with sorrow and more importantly we are consumed by that feeling of utter helplessness.

Anoni Adawi’s husband tracked her down to her temporary lodgings about two weeks ago. They engaged in a bitter argument when suddenly without warning he subjected her to a most savage and frenzied attack and then calmly walked back to his car leaving her unconscious. Fortunately neighbours had heard her screams and she was rushed to hospital. I am told that she is expected to make a good recovery but the man has been charged with attempted murder. Why did it get this far?

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  1. Sad and you are right, common, occurrence in households. I am curious: you were asked to ‘record’ this statement. I take it you work in a social work setting? It must be tough witnessing these life events.

  2. Hi Mama Shujaa, it can be tough and frustrating and many times it is disappointing and annoying but other times it is also humbling and…. rewarding. This particular case got me because of the callous and very casual nature of the offender.

    Thanks and keep well.

  3. Hmm, interesting. And sad. Let’s hope he will be locked up…these are the guys who give men a bad name 🙂 Thanks for visiting my blog

  4. A Kenyan journalist was killed by someone in her own home. It is suspected to be the husband, I almost thought you were talking about her until you said the lady became unconscious, not dead.

    I hope she survives, this lady you are writing about.

    • I read about the lady journlist. I believe they have a suspect. The lady I mentioned survived and is doing well. She is living in a safe house. Her husband has been charged with attempted murder.

  5. @Otieno -Karibu sana. I had noticed the coincidental nature of the 2 posts. You treated the subject well and your post makes it clear that not all men/women are abusers. I hoped to show in mine that this abuser was a well to do average age gentleman who took sadistic pleasure in torturing his wife.

    I will definitely visit again.

  6. Woolie, there is a general misconception that men who abuse women are the rural or those from less affluent backgrounds. Sometimes I am shocked to see reasonably well educated and affluent men abuse their women. I think that is what your post has reiterated

  7. That’s a very sad story. I don’t understand why one would physically assault another because of differences.

    But it’s very true that some of these attacks could be prevented.

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